Although my tweets today about #WorldMentalHealthDay should have been sent out yesterday, they do provide a more balanced account.
Love is tough.
Love is hard as nails.
Love does not readily compromise, and it does not easily surrender to the beloved one.
Mental health problems are not ‘issues,’ and they are not another form of ‘diversity.’
Let’s be respectful and give them their due weight.
At the same time, if anything needs to be ‘celebrated,’ let it be personal responsibility; and this alone.
The second worse thing you can do for someone with mental health problems is to be callous.
The absolute worst thing you can do is to be an enabler.
There is a time and season for everything under the sun. A time to make accommodations, and a time to give a good hard kick up the arse!
Take mental health seriously. That means not being callous; but it also mean not being sentimental and indulgent.
Mental illness is not entirely an external force that comes on one from the inside. Personal responsibility and dignity have to come before victimhood and sentimentalism.
Ultimately, people with a past or present of mental illness should be respected.
This means not asking too much of us; but it also means not asking too little. As Confucius said in the Analects; too far and not far enough are both bad approaches to virtue!