Your romantic success does not depend on anyone but you.
If that sounds scary, even cripplingly scary, it’s not.
It’s the most beautiful thing in the world.
Because from here on in, it really is up to you.
I do understand this all sounds very easy to say, and I want you all to know I am sincere when I acknowledge that. But those who say they are on the very gutter of the love market are generally false prophets, who are soothsaying a purely self-fulfilling prophecy.
With only a very, very few exceptions (why not be the rule like everyone else, not the exception? what’s so special about you???), everyone has something to offer, even if it’s not something very mainstream and conventional.
If your worry is that you ‘stand out’ in some way, it’s important to remember that this is a double-edge sword. There are some women, and some men, who have astonishing degrees of curiosity, and who can’t resist trying to unravel the puzzle, even if they also want to keep a little of this sacred mystery to itself, and so remaining undisclosed, like the Holy of Holies.
If the problem is that you are a bit out of the ordinary, then there will be a way for you to turn your greatest weakness into your greatest strength.
For every 1000 women, or men, who say ‘LOL! WTF!’ there is always going to be that one person who says… HMMMM….
These days, I try to ignore stupid questions.
We all ask yourselves stupid questions.
The question of your place on the ladder of love is irrelevant and meaningless.
The question of whether you have anything to offer is irrelevant and meaningless.
The question of whether you can compete against others is irrelevant and meaningless.
In order to avoid such toxic thought patterns, simply reframe the issue.
The real question you can ask is:
What do some women actually want in a man?
When you flip the question on its head, what once was biased, loaded and empty of the slighest shred of value or meaning, suddenly brims and blooms force with the newness of life.
Your romantic success does not depend on anyone but you.
If that sounds scary, even cripplingly scary, it’s not.
It’s the most beautiful thing in the world.
Because from here on in, it really is up to you.
You are free.
You are loved.
And you WILL love.